From Laurie: About 2 years ago, Sabina began commenting on the blog. She was one of the blogs earliest and most enthusiastic supporters. Along the way, I was offered the opportunity to interview Lisa Shearin, and knowing she was one of Sabina’s favorite authors, I took a gamble and asked Sabina if she would like to interview Ms. Shearin. The answer of course was yes, but there were the normal misgivings. With very little guidance however, Sabina did a wonderful job, and in doing so was able to forge a friendship with one of her favorite authors.
That kicked off what became a friendship between Sabina and myself as well, and as time went on her involvement in the blog grew and grew to the point where I made her a partner. We worked well together, we emailed almost everyday and we talked on SKYPE and the blog grew bigger, better, shinier. I taught her everything I could about writing, publishing, and blogging and she was an amazingly quick study. In a very short time she blew past me and was operating at a speed I couldn’t begin to catch up with.
She took the blog to places I never would have thought of on my own and worked tirelessly to create better contests, better content, and better social outreach. Along the way, we had some amazing adventures together, some exciting things that happened and lots of late night talks.
About a year ago I began to have serious personal family issues, coming at me from all directions. All the distractions took a toll on my marriage, my friendships, my job (which i lost), my health and ultimately on my blog. I began to feel like Job, and Sabina was left holding the bag. Somewhere along the line it became too much for me, and as my inability to carry my own weight became more and more apparent, Sabina was left doing more and more until somewhere along the line, she had to do it all. While she did it with grace, eventually even an Angel’s wings get tired if they are doing all the heavy lifting.
A few weeks ago, Sabina let me know she was going to start her own blog. My first reaction was hurt and dismay. My best friend was leaving me! But after a few moments of hurt ego, I realized this was a natural progression. No matter how much I wanted her to think of DR as “ours”, she would always feel like it was mine and she was just doing the work of both of us, while I tried to get my shit together, which was fine for awhile but after this long, had to stop.
So, although I’m sad she’s leaving Dangerous Romance, as her friend I’m so proud of her. It isn’t what I am losing but what I gained, and that….was actually a beautiful gift to me. Her friendship, her work, her support, actually has been one of the few things that got me through what has up until now, one of the hardest years of my life, and now it is time for her to build something that belongs to her, from the ground up. She can take the lessons she learned working on our blog and avoid the mistakes I made while focusing on the successes we had.
Now she can expand and grow in areas she was more interested in then I was, and I can focus on the things I enjoy more as well. People come into our lives for a reason and for a season. Nothing lasts forever. It is up to us, to recognize the gifts that they gave us, learn the lessons from the time they shared with us, and try to become better people for having known them. I know that I will be, for having had the opportunity to work side by side (virtually) at least, with a terrific young lady, and I hope I helped her a little as well,if nothing else, in gaining confidence to attempt things she hadn’t done before and by being an older sounding board as she faced challenging situations of her own.
I wish her all the best of luck with her new blog. I know it will be a smash hit, because she will do it like she does everything, with 110 percent commitment, creativity, hard work, and integrity. So what are you waiting for? Go on over to Sabinas Adventures In Reading. She has her blog rockin’ as well as Facebook, Twitter, etc… you know…what all the kids are doin’!
Check it out, book mark it, read it, say Hi, follow her etc. and watch it grow. Because trust me, anything she puts her mind to, will become a success. As for Dangerous Romance? I expect I can catch up. I’m sure there will be some SKYPE sessions between me and Sabina as she teaches this old girl how to keep all the bells and whistles on at DR that she plugged in, and it will be fun to write to you again about what I’m reading, and thinking. It won’t be the same, I’ll miss her dreadfully, there will be less content, but hopefully you’ll like it. Please stick around! Laurie Blanchard